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I repost a post from here

I just post a few point that I think it’s fit me well and explain my thoughts perfectly

Here we go,

Seorang cewek butuh seorang REAL MAN, seseorang yang punya JIWA LEADERSHIP, DAYA TARIK, MISTERIUS DAN TANTANGAN.

Bagi cewek, berkencan dengan niceguys sama saja dengan mengencani diri sendiri. Niceguys tidak pernah bisa mengambil keputusan; karena itu niceguys selalu menyerahkan otoritas pada cewek. Oleh karena itu niceguys selalu menanyakan pada cewek, ke mana mereka akan ngedate, entah apa itu ke restoran, ke bioskop, atau ke kafe. Seandainya mereka menikah pun, niceguys akan menyerahkan keputusan pada cewek mengenai mobil dan rumah yang akan mereka beli, memilih nama anak, dan manajemen keuangan rumah tangga. Niceguys adalah pria yang labil dan tidak memiliki identitas. Mereka rela membuat cewek bahagia dengan mengorbankan kehidupannya hasrat, keinginan, kebutuhan, pendpaat dan identitas diri.

Jangan pernah berapologi pada saat kamu berbicara/ melakukan sesuatu yang menurutmu dapat melukai hatinya. Sebagai real men; kamu berdiri di balik ucapan dan perbuatanmu. Jika dia marah dia tak seharusnya berbuat itu, jangan pedulikan; karena itu hanya permainan drama dan tak seharusnya kamu meminta maaf. Kamu adalah real men dan kamu harus berpijak pada prinsipmu. Kamu harus mengabaikannya dan dia akan calm down. Sekali kamu tampak sebagai pria yang lemah dan gugup; dia akan kehilangan respect dan attraction padamu; meskipun dia mendapat apapun yang dia inginkan.

Okay then have a good night…

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stereotypes about indonesian

Soooo, here I am in my aunty’s nest, somewhereee in the middle of chilis and tomatoes trees, ducks, goats, rice fields, canvas, old fancy furniture, shower with water heater, AC, western breakfast, and 3D flatscreen TV. Haha

I have this random conversation with her. She was a student with scholarship in French back then. And she’s so helped with this western stereotype about Indonesian. (applied in 80-90’s)

1. Indonesia is primitive

2. Indonesian people are very friendly and love to help foreign tourist.

The first stereotype made western people easily help her in many ways, with her college homework and another things because they thought those things was very hard for her a.k.a Indonesian.

The second stereotype made western people love her more. The story among western people from people that already visited Indonesia stated that Indonesian are friendly to the foreign tourist, so they must do the same favor for Indonesian, they have to be friendly and kind to her a.k.a Indonesian.

………And in my opinion

1. Indonesia is not primitive, yeah maybe in some province, but most of it is not. We can even build a plane and ship and car. Dammit. We have to show ourselves up more.

2. YES we treated foreign tourist BETTER that our own people, RIGHT? Like if we see in restaurant, if there are foreign tourist, the waiters will be more friendly and nice to them. In the streets if foreign tourist smile to us we will smile back without hesitate, different. Yeah I think that what makes foreign people said we are friendly, because YES WE ARE …for them.

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You know what’s sexy? A real conversation.

You know what’s sexy? A real conversation.

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smirking-raven:

"Humans lie without a second thought. Including me, of course."
              -Ciel Phantomhive, Book of Circus Ep. 5
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"tell me how to love when my heart isn’t here anymore?"

Relationship isn’t about whose right or whose wrong.

It’s about two people, one holds a padlock, one holds a key. Is the key can open the padlock? Is the padlock hole fit the key shape?

If we force the two to fit one another, both will be damaged.

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